Self love is a term that is bandied about a lot these days but what are we really talking about? When someone says "you should love yourself more" or the ever popular "you can't love someone else until you love yourself" what are they talking about?
Self love is important. It influences who you pick for a partner, the image you project at work, and how you cope with problems in your day to day life. It is so important to your welfare that I want you to know how to bring more of it into your life.So, what is self love then? Is it something you can buy in the cosmetics department? Can you get more of it by reading a life coach's Instagram feed? Can a new relationship make you love yourself more? The answer to all of these questions is a firm and resounding NO! Although they feel good these types of activities aren't really turning up that self love dial since self love is not simply a state of feeling good.
Self love is the appreciation for yourself. Not in a negative, shallow way but in a positive way that allows psychological, spiritual and physical growth. Nor is self love static, it grows by actions that mature us. When grow our self love we are better able to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths. Our compassion for ourselves and others increases and our shortcomings become a part of human nature instead of something to be hidden or ashamed of. We are all human here and we all have them.
There are lots of ways you can show yourself a little (or heaps of) self love and some of them we even do unconsciously. Things like protecting ourselves, setting boundaries and maintaining focus are all forms of self love but there are some that require a little more introspection. Taking time out for mindfulness is important, even if it feels like a waste of time. Being mindful is about taking the time to focus on what you think, feel and want. Be mindful of who you are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for you. A great time to do this is during your massage! Take the time to really consider those nagging thoughts in a safe, relaxing environment.
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