It's February! We made it through the holidays just to get inundated with notions of chocolate, flowers, and extravagant weekends away to reconnect with the one you love. But what if we pass on the chocolate and heart covered cards and approach the day (or the whole month!) with a focus on connecting with the people we care about. Not just your significant other, but your best friend that you never have a chance to catch up with. Or maybe your favorite uncle who was always quick with a lousy joke and equally fast in sneaking you a cookie when your mom wasn't looking.
Share some time with someone. Make a pedicure date with your best friend. If you can each bring along your favorite mom, aunt, extremely sweet older neighbor who watches out for your kids, even better. If you can't set aside that much time with everyone's busy schedules, drop off a piece of cake from your favorite bakery. Or keep it crazy cost effective and have your kid finger-paint a very special valentine for their teacher.
Appreciate someone. Look your favorite dry cleaner/butcher/hairdresser right in the eye and say, "Thank you. I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you do for me. You make my life easier.". Or maybe drop an email to your kid's basketball coach and say, "Thank you. My kid loves playing basketball, and I really appreciate that you give your time to make that possible."
Massage someone. I know, this sounds weird, huh? I'm a massage therapist and I'm telling you to do it yourself. But massage doesn't have to be an hour long ordeal with fancy oils and a complicated routine. Watch a video and treat your partner to a hand or foot massage.
Connect with YOU. Not everyone schedules regular massage, and that's okay. But if it's been awhile, maybe it's time to practice a little self-care and get yourself a massage, too. The best gift you can give the people you love is a happy, healthy you.
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Self love is a term that is bandied about a lot these days but what are we really talking about? When someone says "you should love yourself more" or the ever popular "you can't love someone else until you love yourself" what are they talking about?
Self love is important. It influences who you pick for a partner, the image you project at work, and how you cope with problems in your day to day life. It is so important to your welfare that I want you to know how to bring more of it into your life.So, what is self love then? Is it something you can buy in the cosmetics department? Can you get more of it by reading a life coach's Instagram feed? Can a new relationship make you love yourself more? The answer to all of these questions is a firm and resounding NO! Although they feel good these types of activities aren't really turning up that self love dial since self love is not simply a state of feeling good.
Self love is the appreciation for yourself. Not in a negative, shallow way but in a positive way that allows psychological, spiritual and physical growth. Nor is self love static, it grows by actions that mature us. When grow our self love we are better able to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths. Our compassion for ourselves and others increases and our shortcomings become a part of human nature instead of something to be hidden or ashamed of. We are all human here and we all have them.
There are lots of ways you can show yourself a little (or heaps of) self love and some of them we even do unconsciously. Things like protecting ourselves, setting boundaries and maintaining focus are all forms of self love but there are some that require a little more introspection. Taking time out for mindfulness is important, even if it feels like a waste of time. Being mindful is about taking the time to focus on what you think, feel and want. Be mindful of who you are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for you. A great time to do this is during your massage! Take the time to really consider those nagging thoughts in a safe, relaxing environment.
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Body image. Almost everybody has something about their body that they don’t like. For many people it’s a minor issue, no big deal. But some people have a major issue with their body image. It affects how they live and their happiness.
When I tell some people that I’m a massage therapist it can cause a strong reaction. They tell me, whether verbally or through their reaction and body language, that massage is not for them. Their body image is such an issue that they don’t think anybody else can accept them.
The paradox here is that massage can really help with body image issues. In massage school we were all nervous about taking off our clothes and letting somebody else touch us. It didn’t take long for us to discover that bodies are just bodies and become much more comfortable with our own. We also experienced how good receiving a massage made us feel. Something unexpected happened – when our bodies felt better we felt better about our bodies. I think there are three options to consider. Let’s look at the risk versus reward for them.
1. Don’t get a massage.
This is the easiest because it involves doing nothing. The risk is low since you are not letting another person see or touch you at all.
The reward is zero. You didn’t get a massage so your body doesn’t feel any better, and you still have the stress you had before.
2. You get a massage, but the massage therapist either makes note of how you look, as if it matters.
If this has happened to you, I’m sorry. You got a crappy massage therapist. That’s a bummer, and I’m really sorry. You took a risk, and even if the rest of the massage was decent, got very little reward.
This is not going to happen if you come to me. Never. No way. I can’t say this strongly enough. It goes against the very nature of who I am, how I treat people, and what I believe.
3. You get a massage. A great massage. And the therapist does nothing to make you feel uncomfortable about your body. In fact, you feel pretty good about your body after the massage.
In this option your risk is low. I don’t care how your body looks. That’s none of my business. I just want to help it feel better. Your reward is high. Again your body will feel better from the massage and you can start feeling better about it.
I have no idea how your body got to be in the condition that it’s in. You may be dealing with something that you can’t control, such as a medical condition or an injury or accident. You may be in a lot of pain or are limited in what you can do physically. Since I don’t know what caused your body to be like it is now I can’t make any judgments about you.
I’ve worked on heaps of people. Each body is interesting and I’ve yet to come across one that I could not help.
If you have been avoiding massage because you feel uncomfortable about your body, let’s find an option that works for you. You don’t even have to explain anything to me. Leave your clothes on. Stay sitting up or face down or lying on your side or however you want. It’s up to you.
It’s my job to help you feel better. That’s it. Together let’s find a way to help you relieve your pain and stress. Don’t let your body image keep you from feeling good.